I had to laugh. After a week of wrestling with my thoughts about relationships, I opened my Bible app and landed on Genesis 2:18: “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
Really, God? After all my conversations with Him about wanting companionship, after reflecting on past relationships that fizzled out, after admitting I still desire to try again—this verse pops up on my screen. It felt less like coincidence and more like divine humor.
Because here’s the truth: I do still long for companionship. I’d like to try again. I’ve been in a relationship before, but it was filled with friction and unmet needs. It left me unhappy, yes—but not hopeless. If anything, it showed me what I don’t want to repeat: suffocation, being taken for granted, or losing my individuality. This time, if God allows another chapter, I want something healthier, lighter, and rooted in mutual care.
The Desire and the Tension
My current singleness is a paradox—fulfilled yet curious, waiting but not desperate, content but still open. I love my independence. I enjoy coming home to my own space, having time to write, curate haikus, or dive into a K-drama without needing to check in with anyone. At the same time, there’s a tug inside: What if I did share life with someone again?
Balancing desire with independence is tricky. I know myself well enough to say I’d need a relationship where space is honored. Connection doesn’t mean constant attachment. It means choosing each other while still respecting individuality. I imagine companionship as a dance of closeness and distance—like in Song of Songs, where longing and reunion create rhythm, not routine.
As C.S. Lewis once wrote, “To love at all is to be vulnerable.” That vulnerability feels risky, but it’s also the soil where intimacy can grow.
Not Being Alone Beyond Romance
Genesis 2:18 often gets flattened into a marriage-only verse, but it’s bigger than that. God designed us for connection, yes—but connection comes in many forms.
I already experience “not being alone” through friendships, my small group, ARMY community, and even this space of reflection where I process with God. My readers remind me that writing is never a solitary act—it’s communion. Every blog I publish becomes a bridge.
Community itself, though, can be complicated. We can sit in a crowded room and still feel like wallpaper, unnoticed. True companionship is more than proximity—it’s presence. It’s someone seeing you, appreciating you, and reminding you that your life matters. That’s the gift of real friendship. “A friend loves at all times” (Proverbs 17:17), even when romance is nowhere on the horizon.
Henri Nouwen said it beautifully: “We are not alone, and we are not meant to be alone. The community of love is where God dwells.” That truth has carried me through lonely nights and reminded me that my story is intertwined with others, whether I’m single or partnered.
The Bigger Picture of Wholeness
If I’m honest, my fear is less about singleness itself and more about the possibility of being unseen or taken for granted. I want to be valued for who I am, not just what I give. I think most of us do.
One moment from this week captures it well. I was sitting in a circle, sharing reflections, when I noticed someone blush during the conversation. It reminded me that even in small, everyday interactions, connection has layers—sometimes lighthearted, sometimes vulnerable, sometimes carrying the quiet tension of “what if.” It struck me that God weaves companionship into life in countless ways, not just in romance.
The bigger question isn’t “When will it be my turn?” but “What am I learning while I wait?” Because if relationships are classrooms, then singleness is a classroom too. And perhaps God is teaching me that wholeness isn’t found in another person—it’s found in Him. “You are complete in Christ.” (Colossians 2:10).
As Brené Brown reminds us, “Connection is why we’re here; it gives purpose and meaning to our lives.” But that connection has to start with being whole in ourselves. Otherwise, we risk using others to patch holes that only God can fill.
🌿 Soul Insights
1. God Honors Desire, but Shapes Timing.
My longing for companionship is not sinful or silly—it’s deeply human. But God’s timing ensures that desire ripens into something healthy rather than rushed.
2. Wholeness Precedes Togetherness.
Until I embrace my completeness in Christ, I’ll risk expecting someone else to fill the gaps only God can. True intimacy flows from two whole people, not two halves trying to become one.
3. Space is Sacred in Love.
Healthy relationships need breathing room. Mystery, independence, and longing are not threats—they’re ingredients of sustainable love.
4. Community is God’s Gift Right Now.
Even without a partner, I am not alone. God has already surrounded me with friendships, church, ARMY, and family. Companionship exists in many layers, and each one reflects God’s design.
5. Connection Is Meant to Transform.
Every relationship—romantic or platonic—is meant to teach us something. The question is whether we’re entering it to consume or to grow. Learning to appreciate someone simply for who they are is both the challenge and the reward.
🌅 Final Thoughts
Reading Genesis 2:18 in the middle of my musings on relationships felt like God’s way of saying: “I hear you.” Not a promise of immediate answers, but a reminder that my desire is seen, my independence is valuable, and my wholeness in Him is already secure.
So I wait—not with desperation, but with open hands. I’ll keep writing, praying, and cherishing the connections already around me. And if companionship comes, I pray it will be the kind of love that values space as much as togetherness.
💡 Call to Action
Take a moment this week to reflect: Where do you already experience God’s “not good to be alone” design—in friendships, faith, or creativity? Are you appreciating people for who they are, or hoping they’ll fill a gap for you? Write it down. Pray over it. And trust that in both solitude and community, God’s presence means you are never truly alone.
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