Some lessons leave scars. Others leave scripture ringing in your ears.
“Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.”
I used to skim past that verse in Song of Songs like it was poetic fluff—until it became the postscript to a situationship I wish I could erase.
I thought we were on the same page. Turns out, we weren’t even in the same chapter. What started as mutual interest spiraled into something messy. We were both craving love, but neither of us was in a healthy place to receive it—let alone give it well. I pushed for more. He wasn’t ready. Boundaries blurred. Conversations crossed lines. And underneath it all, we were building a connection on brokenness.
It didn’t feel like God.
And in the end, it didn’t even feel like love.
⚠️ When Love Isn’t Love
Looking back, it wasn’t just a failed romance. It was a betrayal—of my values, my faith, and what I knew to be true about love.
We awakened something we weren’t equipped to carry. And it cost us both.
Like a house built on sand, the whole thing crumbled.
“True love is not found. It is built.” — Rick Warren
We hadn’t built anything. We were hoping chemistry would be enough. But feelings, when untethered from wisdom, are deceptive. They pull you in, but they don’t hold you up.
We mistook stirring for substance.
And that’s how it fell apart.
📖 What Scripture Says (and Why I Ignored It)
God doesn’t warn us to kill joy—He warns us to protect it.
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23
Back then, I didn’t know how to guard my heart. I didn’t know how to slow down desire long enough to ask, “Is this really from God?”
I just knew I didn’t want to be alone. And he didn’t either. That was our starting point—and our downfall.
“Love that rushes in rarely stays.” — Morgan Harper Nichols
When God tells us not to awaken love before it’s time, He’s not being rigid. He’s being loving. He’s saying:
Don’t give your heart to someone who can’t hold it.
Don’t rush into a fire without knowing if there’s a flame—or just smoke.
Don’t compromise your soul just to avoid loneliness.
Soul Insights
from the Rubble
1. Speed ruins the soil.
Real love requires cultivation, not urgency. When you rush it, you rip it from the ground before it has roots.
2. God’s timing protects more than your schedule—it protects your soul.
Waiting felt like punishment in the moment. But now I see it as mercy. God wasn’t delaying love—He was shielding me from a counterfeit version of it.
3. Patience and kindness are the first red flags.
If love isn’t patient and kind—starting with you—it’s not the real thing (1 Corinthians 13). I failed that test, and it cost me clarity.
4. Rushing feels brave, but it’s often just fear in disguise.
Fear of missing out. Fear of being alone. Fear of not being chosen. But real love isn’t fear-driven—it’s faith-rooted.
5. Healing begins when you stop hiding the mess.
God met me in the ruins. And He still does. He’s healed things in me I didn’t even know were broken. And every time I surrender my timeline, I feel Him rebuild something stronger.
💬 What I’d Tell My Younger Self
Don’t mistake urgency for intimacy.
Don’t force what should flow.
Don’t let loneliness trick you into settling for less than what God has for you.
You don’t need to be chosen to be valuable. You already are.
“Don’t trade your calling for chemistry.” — Jackie Hill Perry
🙏 Final Thoughts
If you’re single and your heart feels restless, I get it. If something’s stirring and you’re wondering whether to lean in or pull back, this is your sign: wait.
Don’t awaken love until it’s ready.
Not when you’re craving connection. Not when everyone else seems coupled up. Not when the loneliness feels louder than the truth.
Because when it’s real, it won’t ask you to betray your values.
It won’t rush. It won’t confuse.
It will honor God—and you.
And it will be worth the wait.
© 2025 Amelie Chambord
Soul Path Insights 
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