Unfollow the Mob: Why I’m Choosing Peace Over Pile-Ons

I didn’t wake up at 2:45 a.m. for a crisis.

I woke up for Jin.

Long before the sun came up, I was streaming his post-military concert from across the world—watching him light up the stage with joy, country flair, and that signature Jin warmth that somehow makes everything feel okay again.

He sang. He gifted fans. He radiated playfulness and presence.

It felt like a sunrise for my soul.

But by the time morning actually arrived, I opened my phone… and the scroll began.

And so did the spiral.

When Joy Meets the Mob

It didn’t take long for the joy to collide with the noise.

Online, people were attacking the director of Forever We Are Young, based on vague, unverified claims. Whispers that she had boycotted BTS during their military service. Screenshots with no context. Speculation dressed up as fact.

No one seemed to be asking for truth.

They were just riding the wave of someone else’s outrage.

And suddenly it didn’t feel like ARMY.

It felt like a digital witch hunt.

“If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.” — Galatians 5:15

This isn’t how BTS taught us to love ourselves.

This isn’t what empathy looks like.

This isn’t who I want to be.

So I stepped back. Not out of fear—but out of conviction.

Let Them Have Their Hate—I’ll Keep My Peace

Everyone is entitled to their opinion—even if it’s rooted in misunderstanding or bitterness.

They’re even entitled to their hate.

But I am entitled to my peace.

And I’m choosing not to trade it for someone else’s drama.

“Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.” — Romans 12:21

I refuse to play in the mud with people piggybacking off someone else’s anger.

I refuse to let suspicion masquerade as discernment.

And I refuse to forget the message that pulled me into this fandom in the first place: love yourself, love others, keep going.

“Peace is this moment without judgment. That is all.” — Dorothy Hunt

Creating > Consuming

So instead of getting dragged into threads with no grace and no context, I created something.

A birthday video for my best friend in London.

It was a love letter in motion—clips from France, England, California—all the years of friendship, laughter, and joy captured in one simple gift.

When he saw it, his text reply said everything. He didn’t need many words—just enough to let me know the video touched him. It landed where I hoped it would: right in the heart.

And that?

That meant more than winning any online argument ever could.

I’d rather make someone feel loved than make someone feel wrong.

That’s the path I’m choosing now.

“Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.” — Simone Weil

Building Something Better

Instead of fueling online fires, I’ve started building something I believe in: the Purple Star Project.

It’s a creative fan-led initiative designed to celebrate BTS with intention, joy, and generosity—rooted in unity, not division.

I have three team members already and a vision that’s just starting to bloom.

We’re not here to tear anyone down. We’re here to lift something up.

Because that’s the kind of ripple effect BTS inspired in me.

Not this noise. Not this cruelty.

But love, made visible.

Soul Insights

You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to. Not everything demands your voice. Some things deserve your silence. Peace isn’t passive—it’s power reclaimed. Walking away isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. Mob mentality is the enemy of nuance. Just because everyone’s shouting doesn’t mean they’re right. You are allowed to protect your peace. Even if it disappoints others. Even if it makes you look “quiet.” Let your love be louder—by being different. Not by shouting. But by creating. By healing. By not participating in the hurt.

Final Thoughts: I Still Believe in Us

The internet is loud right now. Angry. Suspicious.

But I still believe in ARMY.

I still believe in choosing love.

I still believe in the power of stepping back before we step out of line.

“Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure… think about such things.” — Philippians 4:8

This week, I’m walking away from the noise and walking toward the things that make me feel alive:

A sunrise concert.

A video that made someone cry (in the best way).

A project that builds instead of breaks.

Even when the internet turns ugly, I’ll keep choosing peace.

And that, I’ve decided, is enough.

Connection, Creation, and Community

If this post resonated with you, you’re not alone. I’d love to hear how you protect your peace in a noisy world. Drop a comment, send a message, or just take a deep breath knowing someone out there gets it.

And if your heart is stirred to help build something meaningful, I’m currently gathering kind-hearted ARMYs for the Purple Star Project—a fan-led initiative focused on light, unity, and celebration. Whether you want to support, contribute, or simply stay in the loop, I’d love to have you with us.

You can also explore my poetry collection, 17 Syllables of Me, or follow along as I launch my new podcast, Echoes from the Purple Sea—all created from a place of healing, wonder, and soul connection.

Let’s keep creating light, together.

Soul Path Insights