The Missing Piece: What I Discovered About Love and Fulfillment

The Struggle to Stay Rooted

I remember the moment clearly.

I stared at my phone, waiting for a meaningful conversation that never came. Swipe after swipe, small talk after small talk—nothing felt real. Each conversation felt like a job interview or a transaction rather than a genuine connection. I wanted love, but all I found were empty words, fleeting interest, and shallow relationships.

And in the silence that followed, I asked myself: “God, have You forgotten me?”

I felt like time was running out. I had prayed for a relationship, but nothing was happening. So I decided to take matters into my own hands, signing up for multiple online dating apps, hoping that maybe I just needed to try harder.

But the more I searched, the emptier I felt.

“We need never shout across the spaces to an absent God. He is nearer than our own soul, closer than our most secret thoughts.” — A.W. Tozer

At first, I didn’t realize what was happening. I thought I was pursuing love, but in reality, I was running from the One who is love. I wasn’t just looking for a partner—I was looking for fulfillment, security, and a sense of being chosen.

But love doesn’t come from frantic searching. Love comes from God.

Jude 1:21 gives a powerful reminder:

“Keep yourselves in the love of God, waiting for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ that leads to eternal life.” (Jude 1:21, ESV)

God’s love isn’t something we earn or chase after. It’s something we remain in, rest in, and build our lives upon.

The Turning Point: Letting Go of What Doesn’t Satisfy

The more I talked to people on those dating apps, the more drained I felt. Each conversation felt like I was repeating the same interview questions, hoping for a different outcome. It became exhausting.

At some point, I realized: This isn’t working. This isn’t love.

It felt like changing outfits in a dressing room—trying one on, taking it off, and trying another—without ever feeling comfortable or at home. Nothing was relational; everything was surface-level, fleeting, and ultimately unfulfilling.

One night, after yet another meaningless conversation, I put my phone down, exhaled deeply, and felt the weight of it all. I wasn’t just tired—I was drained. I had spent so much time searching for connection, yet I felt more alone than ever. And that’s when I realized: I wasn’t looking for a relationship. I was looking for something only God could provide.

So I did something drastic.

I deleted the apps. Canceled the subscriptions. And I prayed—‘God, be enough for me. I don’t want a transactional relationship. I want depth. I want love the way You designed it.

And for the first time in a long time, I felt relief.

I realized that it’s better to be single and fulfilled than in a relationship and empty. It’s better to be with God than to be tied to someone who isn’t helping me grow.

And as I turned my heart back toward God, I found what I had been searching for all along—not in a person, but in His presence.

How I Stay in God’s Love Daily

I’ve learned that keeping myself in God’s love is an intentional choice. It’s not just about believing in His love but living in it, drawing from it, and letting it shape my daily life.

1. Constant Conversation with God

I talk to God throughout the day—not just in morning prayers but in small, silent moments. Whether I’m driving, working, or even doing simple tasks, I whisper prayers, turn my thoughts toward Him, and remind myself that He is near.

“Prayer is not asking. It is a longing of the soul. It is daily admission of one’s weakness. It is better in prayer to have a heart without words than words without a heart.” — Mahatma Gandhi

Prayer isn’t just about making requests. It’s about staying connected to the One who loves me most.

2. Meditating on Scripture and Living It Out

I don’t just read the Bible—I ask myself:

• How can I actually live this out today?

• What does this scripture require of me?

• How does this change my perspective on love, life, and relationships?

James 1:22 reminds us:

“Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.” (James 1:22, NIV)

It’s not enough to know about God’s love—I have to build my life on it.

3. Remembering God’s Faithfulness

When I felt let down by online dating, I started deleting those apps, canceling subscriptions, and praying that God would be enough. And I found relief.

I realized that nothing outside of God could satisfy me. Not an app. Not a relationship. Not fleeting conversations. Only God’s love is full, whole, and fulfilling.

Soul Insights

1. Love is a Daily Decision

Each day, I have a choice: Will I lean into God’s love, or will I let distractions take over?

2. God’s Love is Not Performance-Based

I don’t have to earn God’s love—I just have to receive it.

3. An Eternal Perspective Changes Everything

When I shift my focus from earthly worries to eternal realities, my stress fades.

4. Loving Others Deepens My Connection to God

Loving others isn’t just an act of kindness—it’s an act of worship.

5. Judgment is Self-Inflicted

If I judge others harshly, I’m also judging myself. Choosing grace over judgment keeps me aligned with His love.

Final Thoughts: Walking in Love Daily

If you’re feeling impatient, forgotten, or searching for love in the wrong places, let me encourage you:

Seek love from the source—God Himself.

“You can’t give love if you’re empty yourself. And to make yourself full of love, you have to get it from the source. The source is God, and God is love.” -Amelie Chambord

Love isn’t something we strive for. It’s something we receive, rest in, and reflect. And when we are full of God’s love, it will overflow into every relationship in our lives.

Your Turn: A Simple Challenge

If we don’t actively stay in God’s love, the world will pull us away.

So here’s a challenge: For the next 7 days, pause 3 times a day to whisper a short prayer or reflect on God’s love.

Let God’s love fill the places that feel empty.

✅ Comment below: What’s one way you remind yourself to stay anchored in God’s love?

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📖 Journal Prompt: Where have I been searching for love, peace, or fulfillment outside of God?

God’s love is not something we chase—it’s something we rest in. And when we do, we stop searching and start living fully. Let His love be enough for you today.

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