How to Be a Person Who Gives Life-Giving Words

Words have immense power. They can build up or tear down, heal or harm. In my journey, especially in a challenging relationship, I learned firsthand the impact of words and the importance of speaking life into others. Here’s my story and some tips on how to use your words to bring life and encouragement to those around you.

I was in a difficult relationship with a man who was reactive and carried unresolved issues. He struggled to control his emotions, and whenever I brought up character observations for his awareness, he took it as a personal attack. He became upset and defensive. Most of the people I know have the emotional maturity to handle constructive feedback, whereas this person lacked that maturity.

Often, he would retaliate with words meant to destroy rather than help me grow. It got to the point where I was uncomfortable bringing things up and ended up breaking off the relationship. I felt I no longer had a voice, trying to keep the peace between us.

The Bible speaks profoundly about the power of the tongue. James 3:6 says, “The tongue is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole body, sets the whole course of one’s life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.” With our words, we can either give life or bring death. Therefore, it is crucial to be mindful of how we use our tongue. We must choose to speak words that bring life.

Ways to Give Life with Your Words:

Speak with Intention

Be intentional with your words. Think before you speak and consider how your words will impact the listener. Are your words building up or tearing down?

Offer Encouragement

Encourage others by recognizing their strengths and accomplishments. Simple affirmations can make a significant difference in someone’s day and overall self-esteem.

Practice Empathy

Listen actively and respond with empathy. Understand where the other person is coming from and validate their feelings. This creates a safe space for open communication.

Give Constructive Feedback

When giving feedback, focus on the behavior, not the person. Use “I” statements to express how their actions affect you without making them feel attacked.

Apologize and Forgive

Apologize when your words have hurt someone, and be willing to forgive others who may have spoken harshly to you. Healing comes through humility and grace.

Choose Your Battles

Not every issue needs to be addressed immediately. Sometimes, it’s better to let minor things go and focus on the bigger picture. This approach can prevent unnecessary conflicts.

Be Positive

Strive to maintain a positive outlook in your conversations. Positivity can be contagious and uplift those around you.

Speak Truth in Love

Be honest but do so with love and respect. Truth spoken harshly can cause damage, but truth spoken in love can lead to growth and healing.

Using our words to give life requires intention, empathy, and a commitment to growth. By being mindful of how we speak, we can foster healthy relationships and create a positive impact on those around us. Let’s choose to be people who bring life with our words, building up rather than tearing down, and encouraging rather than discouraging.

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